16 | Stop Dating Assholes by Loving Yourself First, with Alyse Freda-Colon

Open an app, send a few messages, have the same conversations over and over, go on a date, and then…ghosted AGAIN. 😑Dating these days feels like an endless cycle of anxiety, stress, and honestly, like a roller coaster we’re not sure we want to be on… you know those old wooden ones that make you wonder if you’re concussed after? Just like that. 🎢🫨And to make matters worse, the same things that can make dating so difficult can also make ANY relationship difficult: wanting to please everyone all the time, to be liked by everyone, needing constant approval and validation to feel okay about yourself, ruminating about “is she mad at me?”… y’all, I’m getting tired just THINKING about it.Alyse Freda-Colon, fellow bad bitch therapist and women’s coach, is my guest for today’s episode, and she’s inviting us to shift the conversations about dating and people pleasing to ultimately focus on how you can become more secure within yourself  so that you’re not #anxietyspiraling when you don’t hear back. Ready to reclaim your SELF and have the dating life AND the internal worthiness you deserve? Let’s get into it!<br />About Alyse Freda-ColonAlyse Freda-Colon has been a therapist in private practice for more than 20 years. During that time, she has  seen astounding transformations in the women she has worked with when helping them make changes that improve the quality of their lives. Now, she’s  helping women like you live the lives they deserve through one-on-one and group coaching programs. Get her Free Dating Checklist at https://coachingwithalyse.com/free-dating-checklist. <br />This episode covers:[1:25] Reading, watching, loving[5:40] What being a bad bitch means to Alyse [12:10] Being your own person within a relationship[13:10] Knowing your deal breakers and putting them in order of importance[14:55] The problem with dating apps[17:55] How to start looking at dating differently[24:10] How to develop a secure attachment style[33:10] Go off segment[35:55] A fun fact about me you might not know[38:20] The importance of developing opinions<br /> Resources mentioned in this episode:Watching: YoungerReading: 10x Is Easier than 2x by Dan Sullivan and Benjamin HardyLoving: Kin EuphoricsMarry Him by Lori Gottlieb TED Talk: Skills for Healthy Relationships by Joanne Davila<br /> Connect with Alyse:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coac....hingwithalyse/TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@coachingwithalyseCoaching Programs: https://www.coachingwithalyse.com/Therapy in New York state: www.afctherapy.com<br /> Connect with me:Procrastination Prescription (free tool with the 5 steps I take myself through anytime I’m stuck in procrastavoidance hell): : bit.ly/procrastinationtoolInstagram: www.instagram.com/bad.bitch.therapistTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bad