Letting go of friends

Why, when and how to let go of friendships. Being 'let go' ourselves: painful, annoying, mystifying, but always a good thing in the long run. Growing apart, and together, can also mean helping each other grow, in absence and presence.
 
We propose some rules. 1. Never assume superiority or inferiority in moving on. No one is better, lesser or outgrown. 2. Judging friends may be a sign it's time for a break. 3. What if one friend always initiates contact? Failing to share this responsibility can be a problem. But it doesn't always mean someone doesn't care, or thinks they are better, it may mean they are depressed, anxious or troubled in some other way.We also discuss ambiguous friendships where romance may have been an intention at some point. When Joe met Ali, for example, the energy was pure chaos, so it's a very good thing they never pashed, and become platonic friends instead. (00:00) - Letting go of friends (00:34) - Letting go of friends more as you get older (01:05) - It's not because 'you've outgrown them' - there's too much ego in that (01:55) - Real friends can grow apart and together and can help each other grow (03:05) - When I start juding a friend, I know it's done (04:30) - Not afraid to let go. It will create space (07:11) - Who are your go to people? (10:48) - Friends you only 'see' or talk to online (11:52) - A/romantic friendships - when Harry met Ali - Friendzone (23:21) - Bromances and Broking Up (25:50) - You cannot swing by another man's house for a cup of coffee? (29:37) - Some friends you can just 'go there' straight to the deep and meaningful (31:31) - The mandatory dating content part of every episode (34:16) - The problem with empathy (35:34) - 'I can't adjust my settings' (35:39) - Bipolar friendships / movies (37:15) - Drifting and ghosting (40:16) - Class, money, and friendships (43:32) - Accepting your life, judging other people, creating space (44:25) - Being the needy texter friend (46:57) - You're not moving on because you're better (50:15) - Not reaching out, doesn't mean I don't love you. Not wanting to 'impose' (53:29) - Deleting numbers (55:09) - Degendering friendship. Platonic/romantic, female/male, not so different Links:
The problem with empathy, Vox, 2017. The article discusses the book Against Empathy - by Paul BloomTwo bipolar romance movies
Katie Holmes - Touched with Fire
Jennifer Lawrence - Silver Linings Playbook

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