Merging Households Pt 2

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Becky: Hello. Welcome to the Haas Lady podcast, where I help you declutter your life and your home. Hello, everyone. It's Becky, the Haas Lady, and I am coming to you today from a cedar closet in the downstairs of a creepy old haunted mansion in somewhere in Kentucky. No, I'm not joking. I am literally in a cedar closet, the bottom floor of this crazy huge house that was built in, like, 1911, I think. And it's an airbnb, and we're surrounded by cows and fields of corn and beautiful scenery, and it's amazing, but the house is a little bit creepy. I'm not going to lie. Like, it's old, makes a lot of noises, but, man, are we having a great time. So, anyway, I am here today to bring all the tips and tricks you need when merging households, and you just have a **** ton of ****. And so, like last week, I gave you the most important step when it comes to merging households, and that, of course, was communication. So this week, I want to talk about how to make those decisions together. But first, again, I am Becky, a home organization professional, living a life of passion to help people get their homes organized. All the people, particularly the women, who struggle with just keeping up with the day to day tasks, much less trying to declutter and all that jazz. So if you found me here, welcome. And if this is your first listen, maybe run back to last week's episode to get caught up. It's not required, but you'll still get plenty out of this one. All right, so I do want to go back and highlight the things from last week. So if you are about to merge households, the most common mistake is to assume things about what other people want or what other people will be okay with. Sometimes we just jump in and start doing things the way we want to do it and give so little thought to speaking with the other humans involved. One of my biggest obstacles in my own way of doing things is to just jump in and start a project, because it is like a now or never mindset. And that all stems from my ADHD. But when I do this, I have become so aware of it now that I really see myself doing it, it's like an out of body experience, and I think, okay, whoa, this is what we've always done in the past, so let's slow down. Like, really slow down. And I see this mostly when I'm working with clients in person. So I'll get an idea, and I just want to jump in and do it immediately. But I have to take a step back. And remember, I am not the only person involved here. Other humans live here, and they need to be given a choice. Again, this is where communication is that biggest factor. So just taking out the expectations that I have for a space and getting input from the client is how those decisions are made. But what if it's a small human or a child? And again, this doesn't have to be like a newly married and blended family situation because it could also be, hey, grandma's moving in because she can't live alone anymore. And then suddenly that child is forced to give up their bedroom because grandmother needs to be on the lowest level of the house or maybe closest to the bathroom or whatever. So anytime you have a child involved, you really need to make them part of the process. And this is new to them and you need to make sure that they are on board with the changes even if you aren't able to give them a choice. But if i