Shedding the Light on Gaslighting with Dr. Deborah Vinall

When You’re With a Gaslighter
Do you have reason to doubt what you hear from your spouse? Have they ever given you any reason to question your perception of your relationship? That’s called gaslighting, and it’s a form of manipulation and control that can have you questioning your own memories. Deborah Vinall is a Doctor of Psychology, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and a certified EMDR and Brainspotting practitioner. She is the author of Gaslighting: A Step-by-Step Recovery Guide and she joins us today to guide those facing a potentially gaslighting spouse toward awareness and healing.
About Dr. Deborah VinallDeborah Vinall is a Doctor of Psychology, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and a certified EMDR and Brainspotting practitioner. She specializes in helping individuals heal from traumatic life experiences and painful relationship dynamics. Deborah is author of Gaslighting: A Step-by-Step Recovery Guide and Trauma Recovery Workbook for Teens. She was awarded the Sandra Wilson Memorial Grant from the EMDR Research Foundation for her research on the impacts and treatment response of survivors of mass shootings across the USA.
Links & Notes Deborah’s Website Deborah on LinkedIn, Instagram,  Facebook or TikTok at traumatherapydoc Deborah’s Books: Gaslighting: A Step-by-Step Recovery Guide to Heal from Emotional Abuse and Build Health Relationships Trauma Recovery Workbook for Teens Schedule a consult with Seth Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! 00:00 - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster 00:26 - Meet Dr. Deborah Vinall 02:46 - What Is Gaslighting? 03:45 - Four Types of Gaslighters 05:58 - Revisionist Memories 08:16 - Traumatic Memories 08:51 - Impact from Stress and Anxiety 09:33 - The Movie 12:11 - Sponsor: Soberlink 14:25 - Figuring Out If You're Being Gaslit 15:34 - Swaying Others to Be Against You 16:23 - Getting Them Off Script 18:41 - Dangers in Separating From a Gaslighter 21:32 - Cycles in Personaliity 22:13 - Using Private Information 23:30 - Unable to Look Inside 24:13 - Getting Out 26:35 - Can Gaslighters Change? 30:01 - Gaslighting Kids 33:26 - Focus on the Long Game 34:17 - Finding Dr. Vinall 35:38 - EMDR 36:30 - Wrap