47. When One Partner Has Low Grade Depression

When one partner shows signs of low grade depression, it can sometimes be hard to know how to effectively provide support. If left unaddressed, not only is there an “elephant in the room” but it also can leave unintended negative impacts on the relationship. Often, depression can be viewed as a “problem” that’s usually left up to the person who is experiencing the depression to figure out how to overcome it. Our view is that this approach is ineffective. In this episode we share a myriad of perspectives, causes, and solutions to support the couple to effectively navigate when one partner is experiencing symptoms of depression.In this episode, we frame low grade depression as something that is a normal part of being human. We illustrate contributing factors that can affect a sense of fulfillment and joy, including the gut-brain connection, unhealthy habits, mis-alignment with values, and toxic environments. We share several tools we’ve used to deal with depression together as a couple, including Dr. Will’s advice from 20+ years of working with patients who have found relief in symptoms of depression.Our invitation for you this week is to be gentle yet honest with yourself — and your partner — so that you are able to work as a team and address darker periods and find possibility, together. And be sure to head back to episodes 44–46, where we share how and why we sought out external support.  Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Google Podcasts, or on your favorite podcast platform. Topics Covered:The three major aspects of depression, from problem to perspectiveThe importance of how we frame and view the depression as a coupleKrista and Will share the three top causes of mild depressionHow not fulfilling your highest values and soul’s purpose can impact your emotionsThe question for couples about their shared missionThe gut-brain connection and its effect on mental healthPractices for navigating and supporting depression The possibility of external support if other tools don’t aid the depressionThe importance of honesty with yourself and your partner about your depression<br/>Resources Mentioned: The World Health Organization’s statistic on depression Receive “3 Game Changing Conversations For Couples” A FREE mini guide for finding new levels of clarity, purpose & potency in partnershipThe Art of We Episode 44. When To Seek Couple’s TherapyThe Art of We Episode 45: Sexologial Bodywork + Somatic Sex Education (with Alyssa Morin)The Art of We Episode 46. This Simple Shift Expands Our Access To Pleasure