Episode 2: The Journey Of Maturity - 4 X 4 Man Vs The $1.8 Million 'Champagne' Man

Modern society often leads men down one of two distinct paths.At the crossroads, you first see the 4X4 man. He's the epitome of stability: in his prime, he has a good job, the lads love him, but a crack around the place, does get the women. But as years go by, from his teens, through his twenties, forties, and fifties, he remains static. He ages without evolving. The behaviors that were once “cool” fun and good to be around start to grow old can be seen as childish. With time, life's pressures chip away at him.People begin to doubt his word, partners lose respect, and his health, drive, and direction start to wane.Ultimately, he becomes a hollowed version of himself, crumbling from within.Then there’s the $1.8 Million ‘Champagne’ ManInitially, this man blends into the crowd like a grape on a vine, neither a standout nor a leader. While others enjoy his company, deep down, he knows he's meant for more than just weekend banter and sports updates. So, he embarks on a meticulous self-transformation, maturing into something invaluable. Over time, work, and self refinement he becomes a priceless $1.8 million bottle of wine, his very presence is respected because of the effort he's invested in himself.It was said to me once “A man either ages or matures, which one is it going to be for you? Do you want to stay the same your entire life?”Observing those around me, I found this to be strikingly true. Today, many men are complacent, maintaining the status quo and ending up as mere shells of their potential.I say this, not from a place of “Look at me I’m perfect”. But rather as I've been there, trapped in that stagnation. It damaged relationships, affected my mental health, and made me question my ability to provide for myself – a crucial measure of my self-worth.(as you’ll see reading this I’m still working on a lot of the things I mention throughout the article)Now, being surrounded by high-performing coaches, and my development in the last two and half years, I've identified 3 significant signs of maturity that I’ve seen in myself and other high-performing men I’m around(or at Least Getting There)Purpose (Vision): Maturity is not merely a byproduct of chronological aging or the passage of time. It encompasses the evolution of personal growth, a refinement of character, and a deepening self-awareness.At the center of understanding of maturity is the concept of "purpose." In a man's journey of growth, purpose becomes the yardstick by which one can gauge his true maturity. This isn't about chasing global recognition or applause but is anchored in genuine, heartfelt passion.Consider my brother's story: he invested years into ensuring his family had a secure home. Every decision he took echoed this singular purpose. His entire vision was oriented around his family, showcasing an enduring drive to elevate their well-being.Jordan Peterson articulately mentions, “Purpose or Vision creates an irresistible force, propelling you past what may seem like insurmountable barriers.”Even if this force is intangible, its impact is palpable, especially when you're in the presence of a man who's unwaveringly committed to his path.