Episode 85: Shawn T. Smith - How to Vet Women for Relationships

Shawn T. Smith is a clinical psychologist and an author of many books, including his best-seller, The "Tactical Guide to Women." During our conversation, Shawn talks about modern dating, the relationship issues with which his male and female clients are struggling, dating apps, how evolutionary psychology has influenced him, and the "red pill" community. More expansively, he talks about how "The Tactical Guide" came to be, what men can do to properly vet women for long-term relationships, and the importance of time in making life-changing decisions.This episode is primarily for men. I have found Shawn to be a candid, sane, and even-handed thinker in the online world of mating and dating. Sean is a fair-minded and strong voice for men, and I would encourage any young man - either looking to make wise life choices or suffering due to indifference - to consult his work.------------Support via VenmoSupport on SubstackSupport on Patreon------------Show notesRate on SpotifyRate on Apple PodcastsSocial media and all episodes------------(00:00) Intro(02:00) How "The Tactical Guide to Women" came to be(03:42) A void in the culture(04:50) The default male approach(06:17) The major themes of "The Tactical Guide"(07:72) The importance of time in vetting(11:50) Red and green flags to look for(16:42) Borderline personality disorder(21:06) Evolutionary psychology(24:52) Roy Baumeister(25:41) Relationship issues he sees in his clinical practice(28:50) Date-onomics and city sex ratios(30:37) Advice for men who are struggling(32:39) Common dating complaints of women(34:08) Dating apps and the Pareto principle(41:20) The tragic aspect of female professional success(45:15) What is the proper message for young women?(46:07) The "Barbie" phenomenon(47:14) What makes for a successful long-term relationship?(50:43) The red pill community(59:40) Who does Shawn recommend for further knowledge?(01:01:22) Why does this information matter?