Episode 87: From Survivor of Circumstance to Warrior of Flow

Inga’s story begins at a time when she immigrated to Canada at the age 16 on her own, with minimal knowledge of English, and this didn’t stop her to pursue her education, which is when she decided to commit to the idea, the need to prove herself. She operated under the narrative that of things she must overcome, the harder life shows up for her, even though she unlearned this narrative later in her journey. Inga also highlights she experienced fear of judgement by others, which resulted in comparing herself to others, spent money she didn’t have, and entertained an internal dialogue of not being good enough, particularly at networking events. She goes on to share that there was a great deal of internal turmoil that she was battling with, as she found her footing her world. Inga would need to make herself believe she was better than everyone else and would put high expectations and standards on others for her to value interactions with people, all these actions unknowingly were to protect herself from her core fears. Inga later suffered a car accident, sustaining several injuries in addition to fear of driving. There were times that her mental health had taken its toll on her and she would cry, felt immense stress and disempowerment, difficulty sleeping, felt stuck, as she didn’t know how to regain happiness. She was able to get herself out of the victim mindset once she started to engage in the rehabilitative process. Her key message to the listeners is that: take a bird’s eye view on any situation you face and look at what is happening not your interpretation of it and see what new perspective you can gain; this is it, this is your life, not your practice life; give up fear of being judged; go live your life.