Integrating the Spiritual- Part 3: Parenting and Family

Connection Card QuestionDeanna: 27 years of parenting (2 kids: 1 girl, 1 boy)Lauren: 12 years of parenting (3 kids: all boys)What was the biggest shift in your parenting? What would you tell yourself 10 years ago based on what you know now?Parenting from Biblical principles vs legalism (“the do’s and don'ts”)Raising “ministry kids” vs kids with a ministry heartSubmission to authority vs rules make you spiritualFull time step mom experienceKids are all different, raising them differentlyBecoming a Christian and a mom at the same timeDiscipling your kids vs raising themStewarding your kids as a gift from the LordWhat is your goal for your kids?Looking at your kids (if they are saved) as fellow brothers and sisters in Christ, children of GodPresenting the Gospel to your childrenAmerican Dream fueled parenting vs Gospel fueled parentingEstablishing the authority of Scripture in your homeSpiritual conversations with your kids, not just disciplinary conversationsGod knows your heart as a parentHeart parenting vs behavior parentingYour faithfulness or faithlessness can rub off on your kidsDealing with shame, guilt and failure in parentingThe Father is faithful and good to your kids even when you are notLosing your temper with your kidsAsking for forgiveness from your kidsTeaching your kids that your failures as a parent do not reflect God, He is the best and perfect Father for themHumility with your kidsYour relationship with God will directly impact your relationships with your kidsAsking God to help you, giving Him the responsibility of raising your kids through youLet expectations goBe the same person in the home that you are outside of itDon’t fake your spirituality Kids aren’t stupidBe honest with your kidsTell your kids your salvation testimony and spiritual growth looks likeThe goal: that your kids will love God and to love othersThe “busy” parents create for their kids in hopes of having it “all”Prioritizing the spiritual in your families scheduleIf you must be “busy”, be busy serving and loving the Lord and His people with your kidsThe world’s constant pull of spending all of our money and time on ourselves and the pleasures this life has to offer our familiesPray real prayers with your kidsPeer pressure….from other parentsBe gracious with other parents in their parenting stylesParents: know your spiritual gifts, serve the Lord WITH your kidsKids are not a bible reason to stop serving the LordYour secret spiritual disciplines do not go unnoticed by your kidsKIDS LISTEN UPParents are human beings just trying to do their best, cut them some slackThe shift of realizing your parents are human like youWhen your kids are totally different from each other, how to discipline them differently“You don’t want fair”Learning your kids in real time, they don’t come with care instructionsGod made each kid as an individual to glorify HimThe First and Second CommandmentsYour kids are God’s firstMaking big life decisions for your kids with spiritual motivesTeaching your kids to love God and to be loved by HimKids identify themselves by what their parents prioritizeKids, your parents have to answer for how they are choosing to raise your in front of God one day, give them some graceFun Cup Question!<br/>Contact us: theironwomenpodcast@gmail.com