Reasons Why Walking Away Is So Powerful

This is a complete breakdown of the major reasons why walking away is so powerful. In all, my team and I have found seven distinct reasons that we’d like to talk about today, Allows You To Take Them Off The Pedestal The No Contact Triad Success Stories Consistently Cite That “Outgrowing An Ex Is Key” Gives The Avoidant A Chance For Nostalgic Reverie To Kick In You Are Setting A Firm Boundary You Finally Have Space To Heal You Are Removing Yourself From A Potentially Toxic Situation There’s quite a bit to cover today so I’m just going to dive right in! What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back? Take the quiz Reason #1: Allows You To Take Them Off The Pedestal A few weeks ago my wife and I partnered up on writing an article about codependence and noticed that many of our clients exhibit codependent tendencies. Basically their entire world revolves around their breakup, their partner, or their ex. This creates what I call the pedestal effect. Here’s a video I did on it, So what we’re always trying to caution our clients against is the idea of putting your ex or partner on a pedestal. You want them to be equal to you or perhaps a little bit below. The goal is not to punch above your weight class, so to speak. However, in some codependent relationships, things can shift. What might have started as you being above or equal to them on the pedestal can change. Suddenly, you find yourself below them on the pedestal, and you have placed them above you on your own pedestal. Essentially, by walking away, you can attempt to reclaim your position and knock them off that pedestal, so that you both stand on equal footing. Reason #2: The No Contact Triad One of the things we always recommend to our clients after a breakup is to implement a period of no contact, which can also be interpreted as walking away. This can be scary for a lot of people, but what many don’t realize about the no contact rule is that it incorporates three specific strategies: The theory of reactance The informational ga