Taking Back Her Brain from Mental Chaos

Rule # 1 for having a managed mindSo I had two rules tied for number one, and I still can’t figure out which comes first, so they are tiedAll Circumstances are neutral AND You have to Feel Your FeelingsRule # 2 Our thoughts create our emotionsRule # 3 Our Feelings Drive our actionsRule #4 Our thoughts create our resultsRule #5 Other people’s opinions/ thoughts of us don’t matterRule #6 Knowing you can feel any emotionRule # 7 Life is 50/50 Accepting the feelings you feelRule #8 Holding Space for other people to be who they areRule # 9 Holding Space for Someone’s Reactions to youRule #10 Acknowledging and Accepting Other people don’t cause your feelingsRule #11 Knowing your nervous response: Fight, Flight, Freeze and how it shows up in your daily reactions, and how it feels in your bodyRule #12 Knowing your brain is not a reliable sourceRule #13 Talking back to your brainRule #14 Our brain just wants to only have one thing be true but what if contradicting things could also be trueRule #15 Making a decision and having your own back no matter how it turns outRule # 16 Knowing that any thought you want to think is available to you nowRule #17 Knowing that any feeling you want to create is available to you right nowRule #18 Most everything can be develop with a change/ shift in MindsetRule #19 Any belief you want to have about yourself is available to you right nowRule #20 You are inherently worthy regardless of anything you doSo rule number 1 all circumstances are neutral:Circumstances are anything that happens outside of you. Something someone says. An event that happened. A situation that took place.You see, when we can metacognitively understand that all circumstances are neutral- which simply means think about our thoughts- and accept that all circumstances are neutral we take our power and control back. Things are no longer out of our control, things are no longer “happeing to us”. We are no longer victims in our own life. We learned that we get to decide what we want to make any circumstance mean to us. When we decide to objectively look at a circumstance and decide what we want it to mean, and not just take things our brain automatically offers, we gain power. You see when we experience circumstances that don’t feel good our brain typically offers us similar negative self talk like:see you were never good enough, they don’t like you, they don’t care about you, you aren’t smart enough, you aren’t pretty enough, see they never thought you were capable, see you are inadequate.But when we see a circumstance as neutral we get to ask ourselves Why are we choosing that thought, why are we choosing to believe this thought that our brain just likes to throw at us hoping we believe it, what if that wasn’t the real story? What if the thoughts it throws at us are not actually facts. Or truth.If every circumstance is neutral- We learn how to manage our mind around it- we learn that we get to choose what we decide to believe.You have to Feel Your Feelings do