Why You and Others Self-Sabotage

Faithful on the Clock is a podcast with the mission of getting your work and faith aligned. We want you to understand Who you're serving and why so you can get more joy and legacy from every minute spent on the clock. Thanks for joining us and taking this step toward a more fulfilling job and relationship with God!Want to join us on social media? We'd love to have you stay up-to-date with the show on all our platforms!TwitterFacebookPinterestInstagramLinkedInYouTubeIn this episode...Why You and Others Self-Sabotage https://faithfulontheclock.cap....tivate.fm/episode/wh Not applying for a good job. Staying silent when you should speak up. People self-sabotage like this all the time. Episode 78 of Faithful on the Clock dives into why people self-sabotage and gives advice on how both workers and leaders can dig out.Timestamps:[00:04] - Intro[00:39] - The common message about work and happiness is that work is a route to happiness. We don’t consider that some people might not want to be happy, but those people exist.[01:22] - Reasons why people self-sabotage #1: The concept of happiness is frightening because people aren’t taught how to handle it well.[02:15] - Reasons why people self-sabotage #2: Previous experience makes happiness feel unfamiliar and, therefore, unsafe.[02:41] - Reason why people self-sabotage #3: People fear that if they’re too happy, they’re not being empathetic enough to those who suffer and, therefore, are “bad” people.[03:12] - It might be more accurate to say that people fear getting hurt more than they fear happiness, but they still try to self-protect before they allow themselves to be content.[03:28] - Self-sabotage is also spiritual warfare. The devil uses it to steal our joy because he knows that if we don’t have joy, we won’t look to God as a provider of that joy. He wants to cut at God by making us miserable and severing our connection to Him. Keeping your joy is the biggest backhand you can give to the devil.[05:05] - Embracing safety at the expense of your happiness can keep you away from work experience that can help you reach your potential, negatively influencing your finances and relationships.[05:40] - Given how many people have experienced trauma, the odds are good that, as a leader, you’ll encounter those who self-sabotage. Your job is to lift them out of that habit or reflex.[06:11] - From the worker's perspective, start taking your joy back by sitting in your stress. You have to train your brain that what creates stress for you (including situations where happiness is an option) isn’t a threat. The only way to do that is by facing the discomfort. You cannot avoid it.[07:47] - Once you get used to sitting in your stress, ask yourself “why” a few times to dig down to the root causes of your anxiety.[08:41] - The 5-whys method comes from Sakichi Toyoda. The fact it emphasizes countermeasures makes it good for dealing with immediate overwhelm or temptations.[09:36] - Once you know where your beliefs come from, challenge them. Ideally, make the challenges actionable w