Why Do Guys Act Like They Don’t Care After A Breakup

Yesterday I was scrolling through our Private Facebook Support Group and stumbled across this comment, Specifically this line in the comment stuck out to me, He says he doesn’t care, but does he? It’s one of the most common questions I get asked on a daily basis and today I’m going to show you the three core mechanisms that make men act like they don’t care after a breakup, The Separation Elation Explanation The Revenge Plot (Intentionally trying to hurt your feelings) The Winning The Breakup Mentality There’s a lot to cover here so let’s buckle up. What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back? Take the quiz The Separation Elation Explanation We start first with the what I think to be the most likely scenario for why you are reading your ex boyfriend as not caring. As I have stated in multiple articles, Most of our clients have an anxious attachment style while most of our clients exes have avoidant attachment styles. Here’s the proof if you don’t believe me, Ex = Avoidant Client = Anxious Now, where this becomes relevant with our discussion revolves around the idea of an avoidant attachment style. I am the type of person that loves simplifying things and one of our very own coaches, Dr. Tyler Ramsey taught me this, He said that when you are dealing with something as complex as attachment styles your best bet is to divide them up into “core wounds.” Core Wound = The one thing that triggers that attachment style So, when know from the polls conducted above that most of our clients have an anxious attachment style and most of those individuals exes have an avoidant attachment style. From a core wound perspective that’s going to look something like this, Anxious Core Wound = Abando