CNLP 535: Kayla Stoecklein on the Unsustainable Pressures of Ministry on Church Leaders, How to Grieve Your Losses, and Overcoming Victim Mentality

Kayla Stoecklein returns to the podcast four years after her husband, Andrew, died by suicide to talk about the unsustainable pressures of ministry on church leaders, how she’s grieved her losses, making sure your loss doesn’t define you, and how to overcome your victim mentality. Welcome to Episode 535 of the podcast. Listen and access the show notes below or search for the Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Podcast on Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts and listen for free. Guest Links
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